Who's Dating Your Wife?

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Guys today seem to have forgotten how to date. We’ve been allowed to get slack and it’s the fault of both women and men for letting it happen. Women have lowered their standards and let us get by with laziness. And we’ve acceded.

Dating is not the same thing as hanging out together. Watching Netflix together with pizza and wine is fun, but it ain’t a date. And your woman needs a date!

She needs it to be official. Which means you have to actually ask her on the date and you have to put a little bit of thought into it. Find a new restaurant, tuck in your shirt, wash your truck. These things let her know that she matters.

She wants you to pursue her. She wants to feel important.

You probably can remember a time when you used to do this, but maybe careers or kids slowly killed the dating side of you. It’s time to take your life back! Her needs haven’t changed; she’s just learned to live with your mediocrity.

Go buy some flowers and make dinner reservations, and start manning up when it comes to dating your wife. Live like you’re still in pursuit!

Military Deployments

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In my 16 years in the Air Force I’ve been sent to a lot of interesting places. Some trips were short, others lengthy. Some locations were beautiful, others made you wonder why humans had ever settled there. But the one thing that all deployments have in common is they make you say goodbye to family.

Saying goodbye made me realize that I might not come back, and that realization made me want to tie up all my loose ends. I would hide bottles of wine and cards for my wife’s birthday, our anniversary, and Valentine’s Day, then I would email her the hidden location on each holiday. 

Saying goodbye also prompted me to tell my kids how proud I was of them, and that I knew they had what it takes to succeed. Your family should never be left wondering what you thought about them.

Whether you’re deploying to a combat zone or commuting to the office, tell them everything you ever wanted to say. Write it to them in a letter if you’re not good with words or if they live far away. Just make sure you say it now before you say goodbye.

Guys vs. Men

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Are you a guy or a man? Maybe you didn’t even know there was a difference. But the difference between the two impacts how the world sees you. Here are a few examples to help you discover where you stand.

Guys avoid confrontation and overlook wrongdoing. Men directly confront misconduct.

Guys send a text asking if she wants to hang out. Men call and ask her on a date.

Guys say yes to everything that sounds fun, but rarely follow through. Men can be counted on to keep the few commitments that they make.

Guys get drunk, look at pornography, make excuses, are chronically unprepared, and think marriage should be 50/50.

Men resist short-term pleasures that bring long-term problems, they take personal responsibility and are prepared for the worst, and in their marriage they give 100% - not 50 – and they don’t keep track of her numbers at all.

Our country doesn’t need more guys in skinny jeans acting too cool to need any help. We need men who are proud of their strengths yet honest about their weaknesses, who have the dependability and sobriety to help others, and who can actually fit their keys in their jean pockets.