Don't Shoot!


Picture yourself walking through a battlefield where your friends and family members are all lying around wounded. They’re alert and talking, but they have serious wounds that require attention. As you picture this scene, what is your reaction? Is it to help them or trample them? To yell at them or carry them?

The truth is, we do have friends and family that are very seriously wounded. Maybe they’ve suffered trauma or abuse. Maybe they’re battling depression, anxiety, or addiction. They’re alert and moving, but they aren’t living up to their potential.

The problem is that too often we men trample them instead of carry them to help. We act like super heroes when our loved ones are hurt physically, but we behave like villains when they suffer emotionally.

Dwight Carlson, M.D., explains in Why Do Christians Shoot Their Wounded that emotional and mental problems are real neurological conditions that require treatment; they are not just imaginary because we can’t see them.

It’s time to change the way we think about those who suffer from anxiety and depression. We need to help them as we would a buddy on the battlefield.

Take The Lead


I’ve got some bad news: You’re not the perfect leader. Neither am I.

Neither of us will probably ever lead a Fortune 500 company or a nation. We might never speak to a crowded auditorium or lead a team to a championship.

But that doesn’t mean we’re not leaders.

Too often in life men remain on the sideline because they think they don’t have what it takes. Maybe they failed once and now they listen to the voice that says they’re not good enough. They believe the lie that they have no business trying to lead others when they have already failed themselves.

The truth is that we’re only a failure if we stay on the sideline. If we learn from our past and get back in the game then we are leaders. And the world needs more good men taking the lead.

I’ve got some good news: No leader in history has been perfect. So we’re just as qualified as anyone!

Lead like you are your son’s role model of manhood. Lead like you’re teaching your daughter how a man should treat her. You are the best leader your family will ever have. Lead like it.

Fat, Dumb, and Happy


There’s a saying in the Air Force that someone is “fat, dumb, and happy,” whenever they take a break from actively flying to momentarily look out the window. This often happens while someone is grabbing a bite to eat. 

For that moment they’ve stopped being a crewmember and become a passenger. Their head is not in the game as they take a break to enjoy the beauty of the world outside their window.

It’s ok to take a small break during a long flight, but if you spend too much time day dreaming out the window you’re going to drift off course – or crash.

Too many men are flying through their life fat, dumb, and happy while their relationships drift off course. They’re paying more attention to their football team then who their kids hang out with. They’re gazing at their phone and don’t notice they’re losing altitude at home.

As men, we need to pay attention to what’s truly important: family dinners, bedtime stories, date nights, and making fun family memories together. Don’t go through life fat, dumb, and happy thinking only of yourself. Stop daydreaming, and make a plan to get back on course.