Read It Again

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Think about how many times you’ve watched your favorite movies. Now think about how many times have you've read your favorite books.

That movie you love was even better the second time you watched it, right? You noticed things you missed the first time and observed how things were woven throughout the story from the very beginning. You appreciated the characters more and fell even more in love with the movie.

It’s the same with books – times ten! My favorite books get more amazing every time I read them. I remember aspects that I’d forgotten about, and I discover lines that I must’ve somehow missed the first time.

You wouldn’t find a new favorite food only to never order it again. You wouldn’t discover an amazing song and be content with just hearing it the one time. Approach books the same way. Find the ones you love and them suck the marrow out of them. Read them as many times as you watch your favorite movie.

Just like with movies, don’t even own a book unless you’re going to enjoy it over and over. So pick up that favorite old book and remember what you love so much about it.

Real Sex

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Alright guys, we need to talk about porn. It’s not harmless. It’s not something all guys do. And it’s not “just looking.” It actually rewires the neuronal pathways in your brain.

And oh yeah, it’s also extremely addictive. More addictive than crack cocaine. That’s because cocaine will eventually leave your system, but pornographic images can stay with you forever. This is according to Mary Anne Layden, of the University of Pennsylvania's Center for Cognitive Therapy, who has labeled porn the "most concerning thing to psychological health that I know of existing today."

This is a serious problem.

Ultimately, porn leads to dissatisfaction with real life. Eventually you’ll be dissatisfied with yourself and with your wife. Maybe not at first, but eventually it’s inevitable. You can’t argue with neuroscience. And that will lead to depression, which will make you turn to more porn. Eventually it won’t be enough.

Don’t give porn any place in your life. Don’t settle for a sad vicarious life, proven to lead to depression and addiction. Do real things. Real sex with a real woman. It might not look as perfect as porn, but it’s real. And real is amazing. Real is beautiful. Real is healthy.

The Need to Read

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Ever hear someone say that they hate reading or that they “aren’t a reader”? Maybe you’ve said those excuses yourself. Does that same logic apply to exercising? Eating healthy? Brushing your teeth? Is that our standard for deciding how to live? If you “aren’t an exerciser” or you hate eating healthy, does that give you a pass? Of course not! The truth is there’s zero excuse for not reading either. 

We’re living in a literary smorgasbord. Amazon can get any book in the world to your doorstep by tomorrow.

Our minds expand reading biographies like Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning. Our awareness of history is blown up by Steinbeck’s Grapes of Wrath. We are in awe of human endurance in The Long Walk by Slavomir Rawicz, and we laugh and are encouraged by Donald Miller’s A Million Miles in a Thousand Years.

You exercise, eat healthy, brush your teeth, and you read. You do this because you’re smart enough to know it’s good for you. Not because you necessarily feel like it or love it.

Amateurs only read if they feel like it; pros read consistently because they’re always working to improve themselves. Go pro!