Bailing Out


The jets that I've navigated in the Air Force didn’t have parachutes. This led to a mindset of fixing any problem. If we had an emergency, we got busy trouble shooting. When bailing out isn’t an option, you do everything you can to fix a problem.

Some men approach marriage with an “ejection seat mentality.” If the marriage goes south they give fixing it a cursory try, but if it’s too much trouble then they’re bailing out. They think they can eject and walk away unharmed.  

Truthfully, bailing out of an airplane is a traumatic event. Vertebrae get crushed, teeth shattered, and the air flow alone can collapse lungs. Ejection seats save lives, but oftentimes just barely. Those who bailout might never be the same. It’s a last resort when not doing so would mean certain death.  

Bailing out on your marriage is no different. It should only be considered when staying in the marriage might kill you. Bailing out will traumatize you (and your kids) and leave you with permanent scars. It’s not a quick-fix to be taken lightly.

Stick with your marriage like you’re flying without a ‘chute. Develop a mindset of fixing any problem, big or small. Don’t bail out.