Confront the Mess

I know some hoarders. They always need another garage or shed for things they don’t use because they filled up their basement years ago.

I’ve noticed over the years how their amount of stuff has grown at the same rate as the dysfunction in their family. It’s like their possessions and relationship problems both grow from the same root. Panic attacks have tried to get their attention, but still they sweep it all under the rug and pretend that everything is fine.

People who won’t deal with their mountains of possessions certainly aren’t going to confront their messy relationship issues either.

When we ignore the messes in our life they'll come bubbling out in other forms like anxiety or work addiction. We’ll keep ourselves busy so we won’t have to confront the lumps under our rug, but our bodies aren’t designed to contain that kind of internal stress. It will eat away at us and demand our attention.

When we clean out the junk in our attics and initiate those difficult conversations we’ve been avoiding we’ll rediscover what it’s like to be cheerful and lighthearted. When we roll back the rug we take back our life.