Throughout history every military has known the importance of establishing a strong perimeter.
A clearly defined and well-defended perimeter not only protects us from outside threats, it also keeps us from spreading our resources and energies too thin. It allows us to limit our efforts to the area that matters most, and those inside can relax knowing that those who stand watch are nearby, not running off towards every potential opportunity.
Perimeters within relationships work the same way. We create these relationship boundaries by saying no to people and activities that wear us out, create tension, or keep us apart. Establishing things we will not do, places we will not go, and days that we are not available will keep us from spreading our personal resources and energies too thin.
Even good things like kid’s travel sports and volunteer work can sneak inside our perimeter and rob us of our date nights and relaxing family weekends together.
Cordon off the most important areas for you and your family: dinners together, Saturday mornings with the kids, and date nights with your wife. Create a strong perimeter around these things that are important to you and protect them at all cost.