I know a guy who said he couldn’t jog anymore because of knee pain. Been hurting for years, he said. When I asked if he had seen a doctor about it he said that was too much trouble. “More trouble than not being able to run for the rest of your life?” I asked.
He wasn’t thinking clearly. That much was obvious. He was an active guy who worked out and had young kids, but he was willing to live with pain forever rather than go to a professional who fixes a dozen knees like his every week.
It’s easy to see the error in this guy’s thinking, but sadly, many men commit the same error when it comes to their marriage. They choose to live in pain rather than confront a fixable problem.
Not getting help for a bad marriage or a hidden addiction is unhealthy thinking. Professionals fix a dozen problems like this every week. Choosing to remain broken is a form of laziness. Getting better requires effort. And real men make the effort.
As men, we fix things. We fix our trucks when they aren’t running smoothly, and we had better fix our relationships (and our knees) too!