We recently moved to a new house and it started out as one of the most stressful times in our marriage. I was constantly frustrated with my wife and I felt like I was the only one packing while she picked out paint colors and sanitized kitchen cabinets. I thought she was being slack and I was getting overwhelmed at the task and annoyed with her.
Then my buddies came over and within a few hours we had moved 14 truckloads to the new house. That’s when it hit me – I was expecting my wife to act like a man!
Whenever we expect our spouse (or kids) to fill a role they weren’t designed to play we’ll inevitably frustrate ourselves and them.
Your wife isn’t ever going to be the hunting, fishing, or moving buddy you want her to be. And that’s okay, because you don’t have to be her shopping and pedicure girlfriend!
It’s necessary to have male friends to help you move or to talk with over a beer. But they’re not going to sanitize your kitchen cabinets. Take a look at your relationships and make sure you’re not expecting people to play roles they weren’t designed for.