Addictions are self-medications. Some people choose to medicate with alcohol. Others turn to gaming, shopping, eating, work, or porn. But ultimately they’re all the same, because they’re all just methods of self-medicating.
The addiction is the result of an underlying problem that has not been resolved. Oftentimes that problem is resentment, anger, or a childhood trauma. And instead of dealing with that issue, we turn to an escape from reality. Something that feels good momentarily and numbs the turmoil inside.
But eventually it numbs the good feelings too. It robs us of real joy. As the saying goes, it takes you farther than you want to go, keeps you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay.
The key is to bring it out into the open. All of it. Secrets and lies are fertilizer for addictions. Spilling the whole can of beans to a professional will work wonders. It’s amazing what a little sunlight can do to years of mildew and cobwebs.
Your sheer willpower will never be enough. You’re going to have to face that resentment or trauma head on. Only then will you be able to leave your meds behind.