AUTHENTIC LIFE

Do Hard Things

   Michael Hans    has done a few hard things.

Michael Hans has done a few hard things.

Want to know the secret to happiness?  Do hard things. When we do hard things our brain releases endorphins that elevate our mood and make us happy.

Accomplishing a difficult challenge like restoring an old car, building a wooden picnic table, or yes, even running a marathon will produce a lasting pleasure that laying around watching Netflix can never deliver.

When a project that you’ve started gets harder than you realized you can either quit or stick with it. It’s going to be hard either way. The difference is hard now or hard later. If you decide to finish then it’s going to be hard now temporarily, but if you decide to quit you’ll be disappointed in yourself forever.

If choosing the easy way out brought happiness then no one with a couch and a pizza would ever be depressed. We essentially need challenges in our life. We’re designed to do hard things.

The world is full of sad, depressed people who fell for the lie that comfort would make them happy. Don’t fall into that trap. Do hard things.

 

 

 

Own Your Mistakes

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All men have things in their past they wish they could change. Anyone who says they have no regrets is either lying or a fool. Learning from our mistakes, from our failures, and our sins is a vital part of growth and maturity.

I have lots of regrets and I’ve learned from each of them. I’m a better man as a result of the process.

Tragedy occurs when a man attempts to cover up his flaws. Hiding our regrets in the dark allows them to grow. It allows them to haunt you. Shame thrives on secrecy, and it can grow to epic proportions when we pretend it’s not really there.

Own your story. Whatever it is, whether it’s noble or shameful, tragic or heroic, it is your story. It’s a part of the narrative that shaped you into who you are today. Own your story; pass it on to younger men so that they might avoid similar pitfalls. No one benefits when you pretend to be perfect.

If you love your sons and daughters you’ll shine your light on the hazards that caused you to wreck. To do otherwise would add another regret to your list.

Pursuit of Happiness

Vacation, like other comforts, is a great place to visit, but I wouldn’t want to stay there. My family took an incredible beach vacation last summer and it was amazing. But so was the return to yard work, school activities, and my workout group. This is because we weren’t designed to live forever eating ice cream and reading novels at the shore.

Comfort is a nice place to visit. But we would never feel deeply satisfied if we remained there permanently. A La-Z-Boy recliner is only good if you’re able to get up from it. It was designed to be used after the work was done.

Many people seek happiness in comfort. Comfort foods, extravagant purchases, personal pleasures, and self-medications are popular choices. But these indulgences only lead to emptiness, and depression.

Like eating too much ice cream, the sweetness of comfort will eventually leave you aching for something more substantial.

However enjoyable a comfort might be it is only good if it’s a temporary vacation from meaningful work.

True happiness comes from contentment and accomplishment. Fill your life with meaningful work and then happiness will find you whether you’re comfortable or not.