Do Your Own Laundry

Public Service Announcement for All Married Men: You have to act the way you want to be treated. You can’t act like a dependent child – by expecting your wife to do your laundry, make your food, wash the dishes – and then hope that she will treat you like an independent man. If you want her to act like she’s still your girlfriend (and I know that you do) then you have to act like her boyfriend.

Somewhere along the way men get lazy and complacent. They start treating their wife like she’s their mom; then they're perplexed that she’s not attracted to them anymore.

Here’s a hard-hitting fact: you should not need your wife. Despite how romantic it may sound – marriage is actually more romantic when both partners are independent, fully-functioning adults. They stop resenting, comparing, and whining. And that can be very attractive.

You should never expect to be thanked for doing the dishes. You wash the dishes simply because you own them. You do your laundry because it’s yours.

The simple act of becoming an independent man can have a huge return for you. Plus, it models a healthy relationship – which your kids will follow.

Flight Instruments

Flying by the seat of your pants is a dangerous way to fly and an even more dangerous way to operate in relationships. When pilots rely on feelings they can end up crashing into the ground. That’s why they trust instruments when it’s cloudy or dark.

In the same way, men destroy their marriage by flying into it “by the seat of their pants.” Our feelings and emotions can convince us that something will make us happy when it will actually bring disaster. Lives have been ruined by men following their instincts.

What you need in your life is the same thing you need in your aircraft – a trusted source outside of yourself to alert you when you’re off course.

These “instruments” come in the form of mentors. Men whose lives you want to emulate; not drinking buddies in the same fog as you. Every man needs an older mentor. Someone with a healthy marriage, whose children are successful adults. A man who knows the terrain, and can help them navigate when times get dark.

Don’t let your pride crash you into a mountain. Seek out a mentor and meet with them regularly. Life’s too important to fly it alone.

Better Than Nothing

Ever skip a workout because you didn’t have time? Actually, what you didn’t have time for was your entire workout. We get locked into this “all or nothing” way of thinking when it comes to workouts.

We become so rigid when it comes to working out that if one little thing gets messed with the entire plan comes tumbling down. 

Let’s say you had wanted to go to the gym, but after a long phone call you only had 10 minutes left to workout. You’re tempted to cancel the entire thing, right? But why not go for a 1-mile run at your fastest pace or just do 10 minutes of burpees? 

You wouldn’t think “all or nothing” when it comes to eating or sleeping. If you don’t have time for a sit-down meal you’d still grab a snack.  If you stayed up until 1 a.m. you’d at least get in 5 hours of sleep. That’s because we view food and sleep and necessities. And we know they have a cumulative effect. Like investing for retirement, every little bit counts!

The same is true with workouts. View exercise as necessary as food and sleep. A little is better than nothing.