The First Hour

“The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day.” I wonder if Henry Ward Beecher had any idea how distracted we would become one day.

Technology made our waters choppier. We’re inundated with emails, texts, social media, and news. If we don’t intentionally set our rudder on the right course, we will easily get lost at sea.

Men who have drifted off course tell their kids they don’t have time to read to them, they tell their buddies they don’t have time to workout, and they tell their wife they don't have time for a date. But these same people have time to check out the pictures on Instagram of the dessert that their college roommate’s ex-girlfriend made. And they know which celebrity just got divorced. These are men who aren’t following any course at all. They’re just going wherever the current takes them.

Wake up early enough to start your day doing what you love. Do what makes you come alive. Whether it’s reading, running, hiking, or swimming. Wake up a little earlier and set your day on the right course. Point your day (and New Year) in the direction you want it to go.

Start Now


Ever imagine what kind of husband you would be if your wife were paralyzed from a tragic accident? Do you imagine that you would care for her needs? Speak kindly to her? Do the extra house work without complaining? Of course you do. We men like to imagine ourselves coming through in the clutch during dire times. We’re the heroes of our stories and if our wives were crippled by a car wreck we know we’d rise to the occasion and selflessly care for them.

So why not start now? Why wait for some imaginary tragedy that is likely to never happen to be the husband that you know you could be? Why not start right now being that selfless hero?

Why on earth would we not show our wife this kind, generous, comforting side of ourselves right now while she can see it and appreciate it? It’s like buying her the beautiful painting that she’s always loved but deciding to only give it to her if she loses her eyesight.

Turn on that caring, selfless side of you right now. It might just make her fall deeper in love with you, and that’s something you don’t want to delay.

Know Your Enemy

“Know your enemy,” is an ancient military maxim, but have you ever thought about it in a personal sense? Knowing your enemy is just as important today as it was when Sun Tzu said it in the 6th century BC.

If you’re the average American male with a job and a family you might not face combat, but you still have enemies. Don’t get lulled into complacency thinking that you’re not at war. You are. And it’s more important than ever for you to know and understand your enemy.

Here are just a few of the enemies you should expect and prepare to face:

  1. The attractive coworker

  2. The old flame who texted you

  3. Pornography

  4. The alcohol your hiding from your wife

  5. Complacency in your marriage

  6. Holding on to anger and resentment

Each of these enemies are unbelievably powerful. They each have the power to destroy your life! They are deceptive and highly skilled. They don't want you to even know that you’re in a battle. They want you to relax and drop your guard.

If you want to be a man with a great marriage and a successful life, you must know your enemies!