Attic Therapy


Moving is a stressful event. But maybe not for the reasons you think. Sure there’s stress in transferring utilities and negotiating your mattress down the staircase, but it’s what’s in the attic that gets you fighting with your wife over stuff that doesn’t matter.

That’s because the attic is where we put things that we don’t want to deal with. Whenever we have something we really don’t want to discuss it goes into the attic with the noble intention of getting to it “someday.”

Life can feel manageable while all that baggage is hidden away and not discussed. But if we ever decide to move somewhere new then we’re forced to confront each unopened box and unfinished project, hold up each item to the light, and decide if it needs to remain in our life. 

Maybe your “attic” is a box under the bed. Maybe your “attic” is a death that you’ve never unpacked, or an abuse you’ve never confronted.

Moving is healthy. It makes us deal with what’s in our attic. And it’s all worth it when we arrive at a better place. Don’t let unresolved issues from your past keep you from moving forward in life.

Defend Your Perimeter


Throughout history every military has known the importance of establishing a strong perimeter.

A clearly defined and well-defended perimeter not only protects us from outside threats, it also keeps us from spreading our resources and energies too thin. It allows us to limit our efforts to the area that matters most, and those inside can relax knowing that those who stand watch are nearby, not running off towards every potential opportunity.

Perimeters within relationships work the same way. We create these relationship boundaries by saying no to people and activities that wear us out, create tension, or keep us apart. Establishing things we will not do, places we will not go, and days that we are not available will keep us from spreading our personal resources and energies too thin.

Even good things like kid’s travel sports and volunteer work can sneak inside our perimeter and rob us of our date nights and relaxing family weekends together.

Cordon off the most important areas for you and your family: dinners together, Saturday mornings with the kids, and date nights with your wife. Create a strong perimeter around these things that are important to you and protect them at all cost.

Get Your Shoes On


A few weeks ago our whole family was arguing. Everyone was irritable and unpleasant. Kids were scattered around the living room and kitchen on various electronic devices, and my wife and I were back and forth between our phones and raising our voices at our kids. It wasn’t pretty.

I believe deeply that we weren’t designed to live indoors staring at electric screens.

So I said, “That’s it! Everyone get on your shoes. We’re going for a walk.” There were a few grumbles, but within minutes we were all outside, and walking a trail beneath the trees.

The power that nature has to transform our moods is nothing short of miraculous. After listening to birds, looking at trees, and feeling the sun and wind against our skin, we were an entirely different bunch than we were before.

The therapeutic power of walking outside can transform us. It reinvigorates our souls and it releases our minds from their everyday indoor-worries. It’s earned the title “Great Outdoors” for a reason.

If your fast-paced schedule is squeezing the life out of you, and your kids are at each other’s throats, maybe it’s time you tell everyone to get their shoes on.